Oneness

A year ago at this time my husband and I attended a marriage conference.  Last night I was looking over my notes and in the first few pages I found this:

ONENESS
Oneness in marriage involves complete unity with each other. It is more than a mere mingling of two humans- it's a tender merger of body, soul and spirit.
-Dennis Rainey

The web defines oneness as "the quality of being united into one".

Either way.. That's pretty powerful stuff.  I mean, think about it... Oneness.  Not being two people that just enjoy each others company and don't mind being together, but really working towards a tender merger.   Sounds pretty romantic to me. 

When my husband and I were dating I thought this stuff was a cake walk.  Even a few years into our marriage this still came pretty easily. 

Then all of a sudden our lives looked something like this: Sunday school, church, ball practice, MOPS meetings, bowling night, play group, school concerts, friends house for dinner, Thanksgiving here, Christmas at the in-laws, and every other commitment that seemed like fun, but pulled us in every direction, except closer.  Sometimes I don't know how we have managed to eat and sleep the past year. 

So it's been a year since I was reminded that my goal with my husband is oneness.  And you know how it goes, "out of sight out of mind". 

This isn't magical, it takes work... YOU have to work to achieve ONENESS. (And I sure do too!)

Ephesians 5:22 (King James Version)

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.